Lorry Schneider on Co-Active Coaching

Get Out of My Way!

Recently, I deliberated over what I was tolerating. Here’s the bottom line - I was getting in my own way!

As I began to explore my values, I noticed I was stepping all over myself. I can still see my footprints on my forehead! My values of happiness, connection, fun, living in the now, authenticity and courage were being gutted at my every turn. Here’s what’s sickening about that – I was the driver that ran over me!

The “Why?” was easy to figure out – those sneaky saboteurs were wreaking havoc on my self-esteem, my self-worth, my “am I enough” parts of me. I allowed those pesky inner voices to dictate my actions which, in turn, stopped me from living my life aligned with my values. The past few months these “inner critics” have had a feeding frenzy on my sense of self and this, my friends, is not living!

Unveiling each value and expanding each one to uncover more meaning, I noticed there was so much more to these values than once thought. Take a look at the richness, when mined, the depth at which my values bring to my life:

• Connection means: heart to heart / love / intimacy / depth / vulnerability.
• Happiness means: joy / smiling /peace / stomach tickle / openness / love.
• Fun means: laughter / more sex / smiling / reckless abandonment / silly / freeing.
• Living in the now means: no past, no future / current / just being / no thinking / flow / rhythm / no expectations / whatever happens let happen.
• Courage means: bravery / having a spine / “manning up” / Zena Warrior / inner strength.
• Authenticity means: bare-bones / truthful / honesty / being yourself / raw / no judgment.

So, now what? Action steps my darlings! AND tell my saboteurs to hit the road! You know, once I get out of my own way, seeing the forest for the trees makes it much easier to breathe and live a life that feels full and beautiful.

Give me a call if you find yourself waking up one morning with footprints on your face – chances are – they belong to YOU! Together, let’s get you unstuck and out of your own way – live the life that you were destined to live.

Until then, be kind to yourself, love yourself and know that you are “enough” just the way you are!

What Am I Tolerating?

Well, I know "what" I am tolerating; I guess the bigger question is "why" am I tolerating "it"?  When I really think about it, I know the answers to both of these questions.   

For those of you that don't know,  I have been on a major personal growth journey for many years but particularly in the last 3 I have been digging pretty damned deep.  I'm on a personal mission to move from the "place" that doesn't feel right, the part that keeps me up at night, the part that makes me question my self-worth and move into a place of fun, love, connection and the feeling of "being enough".   

I want fulfillment damn it! I want to live my life aligned with my values, change my karma, start laughing again, begin to feel alive and for the most part, I am doing a fantastic Grade "A" job of it.  

So, you ask, what's the problem?  

We all do our best to move forward but sometimes we allow life to get in our way, or should I say, we allow ourselves to get in the way of life.  And that's what I'm doing right now.  I'm getting in my own way!  

I fluctuate from sadness to anger because I know my values are being stepped on and because I'm allowing it!   The reality is that it doesn't matter what the "what" is and as for the "why", well, that doesn't matter either.   What's really important is that I'm stuck - and this is of no benefit to me!  

Physician heal thy self!  My client said that to me last week - hmmm, she has a point, coaches are people too!  :)  Time to sit down and look at my values - have they changed, what's my current perspective, what emotions am I deflecting, what am I pretending to be or not be.  

Well, I guess it's time to do my homework...I'll let you know how it goes! :)